Most women leaving violent relationships return at least once because their self-authority has been eviscerated and replaced with a partner’s authority. Think Stockholm Syndrome. Rihanna probably needs support, not criticism, and her return could be a cause for teaching, not despair.
This is a microcosm of the frequent difference between the original battered women’s centers that were or are run by survivors, and some of the current Family Violence Centers run by people with degrees. The survivors supported women in making their own decisions — because they themselves knew from experience. The second too often repeated the problem by telling women what to do one more time.
Gloria Steinem’s response to Lena Dunham name-dropping her during some vomitous hand-wringing concern trolling about Rihanna
If you mock and belittle and insult a DV victim for being abused or staying with or going back to an abuser, you are telling them that their abuser was right about what other people think of them and how little support there is for them from others so idk enjoy living with yourself if you like talking about how you’re “so done” with a woman for being “so stupid” or whatever
And you’re the one who’s “sending a bad message” to young girls because the message you’re sending is “I will completely abandon you if you’re ever in this situation and I might say it’s all your fault too”
Adewale Akinnuoye-Agbaje, Chris Hemsworth, Jonathan Howard, Kat Dennings, Stellan Skarsgard, Natalie Portman, Christopher Eccleston, Tom Hiddleston and Idris Elba attend the World Premiere of ‘Thor: The Dark World’ at Odeon Leicester Square on October 22, 2013 in London, England [HQ]
Black Girls Rock Takes Over The Red Carpet This Weekend
New Jersey Performing Arts Center was all a buzz Saturday night for the BET taping of Black Girls Rock & The Red Carpet was full of Beautiful Ladies.
- The Girlfriends Reunion with > Jill Marie Jones, Persia White, Tracee Ellis Ross and Golden Brooks
- Jennifer Hudson With a New Short Doo & in Balmain and Christian Louboutin
- Nia Long
- Tracee Ellis Ross & Regina King
- Queen Latifah
- Kelly Rowland
- Mariah Carey & Patti labelle
- Tatyana Ali
- Keke Palmer